I need a benefactor. Does anyone know where to find one? I’d settle for a guardian angel, a life coach or even just a friend with common sense.
I have been struggling with the rental dog lately. I have to get rid of her and I have been told she is unadoptable. She has chronic ear problems and could not be placed. She would be destroyed if I brought her to the Ramsey Co Humane Society. So she is still with me but I am looking into other alternatives. If you want to read more about it you can go here.
My ex husband has not paid child support in months. Actually he has paid but his employer has not sent it on to Ramsey County Child Support Services. When I talked to the person at the county she said:
“You should know better than to count on child support. I know it is hard to hear but you are better off if you don’t figure it into your budget.”
I have heard this many times before so it isn’t a surprise to me but geez! Of course I count on it. Who doesn’t? Most guys are not deadbeats. My ex has been on top of paying child support for the last two years. He bitches about it all the time and would rather he didn’t pay it but he has been paying it. His employer has not paid it. They have taken it out of his check they just haven’t sent it on. They will get a strongly worded letter from the county but not much more. They won’t pay my overdrafts or my late fees. There has to be a better way.
Two of my clients have also not paid their bill. I know the economy is bad right now but if you can’t pay me please let me know. I can’t do anything to make them pay me but I’d sure like to know so I can work around it.
I’m too much of a pushover and I am trying to change that. I’m not really sure how to do that thus my desire for a benefactor. I want someone to take me under their wing and show me how to do the things I need to do to be successful. I have the talent, I have the clients, I have the work I just can’t get anyone to pay me.
I’d also be happy with a sugar daddy though I fear I am a little old for that.
I’ve been there, myself. I really didn’t want to take child support, but always needed it for child care while I worked. It was so little and he cried about having to pay it. I always had to go back to teaching to just barely scrape by, with help from my family. When I would need to buy a car or something, I was always told, “What you need is a rich husband!” No chance of that and, after two deadbeats, that was enough for me.
My grandsons and daughter live with me, so I still have family to take care of, although I have retired. It does feel good to not have to depend on anyone, though. The boys’ dad was a deadbeat too, and wouldn’t even see them, fearing he would be caught for not paying child support. He died suddenly, having fled to another state.
It would seem that, maybe a lawyer could get your ex’s employer to fork over the money, or the state AG.
Good luck! Just wanted you to know that others have experienced the same thing. And that is a sad statement of how things are.