I’m not a huge fan of the Gores, even though Al gave us the internet, but I am sad to hear that they have decided to get a divorce after 40 years of marriage.
I try to stay away from politics on my blog, even though the first year I talked about nothing but politics. Blame it on the two year long presidential election which was just filled with things to talk about and the fact that I was a campaign manager right before I started blogging. I have since realized I know nothing about politics and it is better if I keep my opinions to myself. If I don’t Jayne will come over and kick my ass. I love her blog but feel as if my welcome there is tenuous at best, even though I am her token republican. I need my Sunday Recap so I keep my mouth shut even though I am not convinced she says some things just to get my goat.
As such I’m not going to talk about the Gores’ politics except to say that my dislike for them started back in the 80’s when Tipper decided that record albums needed warning labels. I’m sure her plan to protect children from questionable lyrics backfired and she probably created millionaires out of some musicians who wouldn’t have otherwise made a splash, but that was not her intent. I also have a hard time with hypocrisy. Al Gore is Mr. Environmentalist and all things green and yet he consumes more energy and pollutes more than I could ever hope to in my lifetime. Of course he buys his carbon offsets so it makes up for everything.
So, no, I don’t care that much for the Gores. But, I am sad to hear that their marriage is ending after 40 years. According to their ‘people’ there was no affair, though I find that hard to believe, they simply grew apart.
I’m no expert on marriage, though I do know quite a bit about divorce, but it seems to me that after 40 years you might just want to stick it out. Apparently these two were high school sweethearts. They have no idea what they are about to face. The dating world is brutal. Okay, it might be a little easier for both of them because they are celebrities but still, dating is no fun.
The whole world is talking about Al and Tipper, maybe not the whole world, maybe just those of us in countries where we have so much extra time on our hands, because we don’t have jobs, that we can concern ourselves with this kind of thing. Or maybe everyone is talking about their divorce because it really is scary.
I’ve never made it past the three year mark in a marriage but I always assumed that once you got past the seven year itch (which seems to happen around the three year mark) and got the kids out of the house, that marriage was a little easier. That after a certain amount of time together, ups and downs, and all out fights, that if you could survive those things you could coast for a little while. That you could maybe relax a bit and know, really know, that you were going to hit that rocking chair on a porch next to your spouse. You both might have dementia and gravity has taken over but still, you had your person who made you not alone. If you were lucky and no one had dementia or Alzheimer’s, you might be able to remember the past with fondness, look back at what the two of you had created and smile.
Now both of the Gores will have to find someone else to sit with them on that porch. They won’t be able to talk fondly about their past because they won’t have much of a past with the new person. If Al finds some hippie chick to spend his golden years with there will be certain subjects that are not allowed. Subjects like his life as a VP, his invention of the internet and all the other things he did while he was married to Tipper. I don’t know what Al Gore does these days but his glory days are probably over. He probably isn’t going to run for president again, he might create something just as awesome as the internet, say, the iPad or the Hubble Telescope, but my guess is his inventing days are over too.
Tipper probably fares a little better than Al in finding a lasting mate. She looks pretty good, she seems to have mellowed over the years and men are dogs who will bang anything. They don’t really care who she was married to before. Since they don’t often listen anyway they probably won’t care if she talks about Al’s campaign or that kiss they shared on election night.
I’m sure both Al and Tipper will be just fine. They have gobs of money and can do what they want. They don’t have to stick it out for the kids or because of the crappy economy. Which is really a sad thought.
Who do you think will get the Clintons in the divorce settlement?
i do not buy that there is not a third pary involved. and i would bet it is her. al is a very good man, but boring …. not that good, boring men should be left, but …. if there is an opportunity to “feel alive” for the first time in 40 years, and you have had a life that has resulted in depression …. there is more to this story.
i do think whatever is going on, they have handled it classy. they are classy people.
in comparison to .. jessy james, etc….
I don't know if I would label Al a 'good' man. I don't know him personally and I doubt he is a Jesse James or Tiger Woods but no one thought John Edwards would become a total douche. I'm betting Tipper is pretty frigid.
Tipper is not frigid.
How do you know?
I slept with her in college.
How do you know?
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I'm not a big fan of the Gores either, but this doesn't surprise me.
Thanks for stopping by the Healthy Moms!
Why doesn't it surprise you? Have I missed something?
May I offer that long term marriages offer their challenges.
The tenor of a marriage changes.
It is always a challenge.
It is sad, though to see a relationship of that length end. Although one will never know if it would have ended much earlier except for political aspirations.
I wondered about that too but they always seemed like a couple who truly liked each other. Where the Clintons were a marriage of political power the Gores seemed to really enjoy each others company. And they might have and maybe with political aspirations behind them they drove each other crazy? Both of them would drive me crazy so I suppose it is possible.
Divorce is pretty crappy. I know a lot about it. Not as an ex-married, but as a multiple step-child.
Gore seems like a totally different guy than 40 years ago… he used to be quasi-conservative back in the olden days. And thin. And… and… SANE, for gosh sakes.
Anyway, it's just another reason to love Ronald Reagan!!– he remained married to that witch, Nancy, and even loved her til the end! Now that's amazing.
Yeah but even Ronald Reagan was married to that other bitch for a few years. Even if he wanted to divorce Nancy, and I don't think he did, she wouldn't have let him. Didn't he call her 'mother'? That says it all right there.
Your welcome on my blog is “tenuous at best?” How can you say that? You're always welcome to express your views, however misguided they may be. You know that. And what about our legendary ass wars? You can't say we don't have fun.
I'll be posting about the Gore breakup too. Maybe in the recap, maybe before. It totally boggles my mind. You've really nailed it here. After 40 years I think this growing apart stuff is really bullshit.
We have tons of fun! And we should still take our ass war on the road.
I can't wait for your recap or post about this.
My marriage lasted just shy of 21 years, with no 7-year itch. We really did grow THAT far apart… nothing in common other than our past. The person I was at 13 when we first started dating was nowhere to be found in that 40 year old woman, and the same was true for him.
Nothing earth-shattering happened. And maybe, just perhaps, that was the problem in a nutshell.
I'm sure divorce will be much more difficult for the Gores, given that they had a family together, and celebrity. My ex and I had neither. But it still was the hardest thing I have ever done.
Divorce is really hard, it brings out the worse in just about everyone. Since their kids are grown they won't have to fight over custody and that should make it a little easier.
I don't care about either one of these people. Nuff said.
As for the Clinton's? Times two!
Have a terrific day. 🙂
I d find it weird to grow apart and get divorced after 40 years. I've been married for 16 years, and while I'm sure that challenges still lay ahead, I feel like we've made it through so many of the really difficult years.
She's definitely held up better than he has, so I guess we'll see who will snag a new love interest first.
16 years is a long time so 40 seems like forever. I hope both of them find happiness, and keep to themselves, but it is so strange to see something that lasted for so long end.
I was reading along fine until
“men are dogs who will bang anything”
Now you're picking on dogs??
Hey my first wife walked out on me with some guy older than both of us. I truly do not think one sex has the market share of cheating. We do react differently to it happening but there's plenty of guilty parties to fill reality shows for years to come.
You are right, all people can be skanks or cads. No gender has the market on being a jerk. However, women are more apt to not want to talk about the past life with an ex spouse.
Funny, I'm posting about divorce this week also. Nothing to do with Al and Tip but now I feel all current and crap.
40 years wow.
Am I the only one looking forward to SNL this week?
Something is up with Disqus, or it's just me. I already replied to this so sorry if you get another one.
Isn't SNL on hiatus?
Isn't SNL on hiatus? I wonder if they waited for that to happen before they
announced their split?
I never liked Gore. I still don't. Oh he's smart of course. But just the same, there's something creepy about him to me. His wife is cute. Yeah, after 40 years, why bother getting a divorce. Unless you really have grown to dislike each other. But it seems to me you figure that out after 6 months or so.
Do you think he is smart? I mean, yeah, he did invent the internet and all that but he doesn't look very smart.
Yeah, I guess he's smart, Jen. He's just got a face that I don't like. Also, save me from “True Believers”. And I think he fits that bill pretty well too. People form an opinion and think it's true. Maybe they are smart and have evidence to back up their view. But it's not a a fact until it's proven as one.
Hell, I knew I didn't like either of my ex husbands before we were married.
I knew a guy whose parents got divorced when he was 30 which put his parents
in their late 50s early 60s. It devastated him, he hasn't bothered to commit
to a relationship since then and his parents are both alone now in their
The first thing I thought of when I read about the Gores, was what their children would do. My parents divorced 6 years ago after 48 years of marriage. It is hard on them, but now I have to deal with the fallout. I almost required them to fill out a parenting plan…who gets which holiday with the grandkids. I still think it is a good idea.
I hadn't thought of that, that must be a real challenge. Can't they get along and all go to the holidays together?
Unless Tipper was cheating, Al will be the one to show up first with an S.O. Because Al will have his pick of any woman out there, whereas Tipper will be limited to men equal to or greater than her age, because that's the way it is. I will be shocked if it turns out otherwise. Pleasantly shocked, but shocked nonetheless. Not that I'm cynical or anything.
I don't know either of them well but I imagine Tipper would find herself with someone sooner than Al. I can't picture Al hooking up with someone half his age which seems to be standard fare for recently divorced men in their 60s. I also have a feeling that Al will find he needs Tipper more than Tipper needs him. She was the woman behind the man, she is used to him being gone and taking care of everything, he is used to her taking care of him.
I confess, this one took me by surprise. I thought it was some sort of joke.
I thought it was a joke at first too and then I was shocked and then sad.
Maybe I'm a real weirdo but I don't know that, if I got divorced at 60-something that I'd even spend the time looking for a new mate. But then, I didn't enjoy being married and I was married more than once. The last time for 12 years, 10 of which were dismal. I finally got tired of wasting my life being unhappy. Wasband is not a bad guy but he was not a good husband. For me, anyways. I grew up and grew new interests and he stayed the person he had been at 21. We lived in the same house but had 2 very separate lives. I can't imagine being married again. Totally not interested. And I'm in my early 40's. And realize that I have no one to take care of me in my old age. But I don't think of that as I reason that I should get married. Yeah, I'm probably just really weird.
I don't think you are weird at all. You might want to get a few cats however. It's much easier to imagine being single in old age if you have been single for a long time. In some ways I am sure it is easier than the ups and downs of marriage but I agree that after 40 years you might have found a balance and a rhythm that would make it worth staying together.
I'm already on my way to being a crazy critter lady (cuz ANYONE can be a crazy cat lady.. I'm diversifying!)
I can't imagine what it would be like to separate from someone I'd been married to for 40 years. I'm not even that old yet. You would think that during those many years they would have found a way to work through any problems. And with their lives being out for the public to view, that would have only made it harder. To get through all that and now end their marriage is surprising. I hope it's at least an amicable separation. As amicable as divorce can be, at least.
I hope it's amicable too. Divorce sucks, even the most amicable couples turn into arch enemies during a divorce. I hope they don't go down that road.
When I was a fledgling heavy metal rock journalist, it was right when Tipper was in the thick of her music censorship crap. So I have never liked her. Actually, my outspokenness about how stupid that whole issue was got me placed on music industry panels at several conventions, so you'd think I would thank her. But sorry, I do not roll like that. I hated what she was about, and I do not forgive her for that. She caused so much BS amongst good, creative people trying to have their say. Not to mention good, creative people who were just trying to entertain.
Al – Al is not my type, but he would be welcome to talk about his glory days to me, even though they involved the “Tipper era.” Any woman over 40 cannot deny a man who is her contemporary or older his past. Nor should hers be denied. When Brian and I got involved, he had been through one marriage, one longterm relationship and a 15-year stint with a platinum-selling rock band. Ignoring all that would be denying part of what he is about. Oh yeah, speaking of Brian… that's the other reason I wouldn't go for Al. I'm already attached anyway.
You are a better person than I am, there is no way I would let Al talk about his glory days. Not because of Tipper but because I already lived them and they would bore me to tears. I would let him tell me about them if it were in my Tahoe however.
I loathe the dating process. Seriously. It's so torturous, I can go for YEARS without going on One Date. If I lasted 40 years with one person, there is NO WAY you could ever get me to 'Go Back Out There' ever again. I'd rather die single!
Me too. Being single isn't that bad. It sucks around the holidays and such but it isn't the worst thing in the world.
Yeah, the holidays DO suck being single, but I'd rather get through that than some of the other bullshit that comes with dating!
40 years is a long time… I can't believe that they thought that it wasn't worth trying to save. Sad really.
40 years is a long time but it's probably even longer if you aren't connected to your spouse. They are in their early 60 and in great shape, there isn't any reason to think they have 20-30 years left plenty of time to find another mate or make a new life. 20-30 years with someone you don't have a connection to might seem like an eternity.
i totally agree with the sticking it out thing! i feel the same way and just said this yesterday too!
I was married the first time for 17 yrs. Would it have been easier to “stick it out?” NO!
We were married too young, dated 3 WEEKS (I was 19 and knew EVERYTHING) and didn't know each other. It was by the grace of God that we lasted as long as we did.
I did get a beautiful child out of the marriage and we are amicable, so it wasn't a “total waste of time.” lol
As Dr. Phil would say, “The real tragedy would be to go 17 yrs and one MORE day.” 🙂
I'm currently facing a separation with my second husband (who I absolutely adore). You'll have to visit my blog if you want “details.”
I am sad. 🙁
hello, An inconvenient divorce: How will this affect Al and Tipper Gore's finances? There was no tell-all article in a national gossip magazine
Is there a better or right to time to get divorce?
How will this affect Al and Tipper Gore’s finances? There was no tell-all article in a national gossip magazine
Well, that is sad. Whatever that is, we’ll just wish for them to be friends still after all. Divorce is not the easy thing in a relationship. I hope they’ve made the best decision. They should have found guides on divorceguide.com