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If You Aren't Part Of The Solution You Are Part Of The Problem

May 23, 2011

you're either part of the solution or part of the problem, if you aren't part of the solution you are part of the problem, If you know your kid is a bully and do nothing to stop it, you are part of the problem.

If you are a bully and blame it on being bullied, you are still part of the problem.

If you are in politics and keep passing stupid laws to make people jump through burning hoops, you are part of the problem.

If you are a politician in Minnesota who wants to amend the constitution to ban gay marriage you aren’t just part of the problem, you are the problem.

If you are a media outlet and your lead story is about Arnold Schwarzenegger you are part of the problem.

If you troll news website and leave mean and nasty comments anonymously, you are part of the problem.

If you are a mother who criticizes other mothers because they don’t breast feed the right way, or at all, don’t feed their kids the stuff you feed them and basically tear them down because you think you are better, you are part of the problem. You are also a bully.

If you are a divorced dad who pays child support on time and without complaint, you are part of the solution.

If you are also that divorced dad and you make time for your kids, you are part of the solution.

If you are a divorced mom who lets the anger and hurt go, you are part of the solution.

If you are a divorced mom who includes the divorced dad in things like school events, holidays, graduations, weddings and any other event that only happens once, you are part of the solution.

If you are a teenager who stands up to mean kids on behalf of another teen, you are part of the solution.

If you believe that we should all live and let live, you are part of the solution.



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  • Reply If I Were God... May 23, 2011 at 4:05 pm

    What if I bully myself to work out more?  I often say hurtful things like “get off the couch you fat bastard and hit the treadmill while you can still walk”.  Sometimes it works/ somtimes it don’t.

    Now, thanks to a ranting redhead that shall remain blameless, I’m left wondering whether I’m part of the problem or part of the solution!  Am I a self-solving solution, or a self-defeating problem?  The solution it seems, is problematic.  (Should I just stay on the couch until I work it out?)

    • Reply redheadranting May 23, 2011 at 4:09 pm

      We all need to be nicer to ourselves. That we aren’t is part of the problem.

  • Reply babs (beetle) May 23, 2011 at 5:25 pm

    All so VERY TRUE!

    I always wonder why, just because someone prefers one thing over another, they think they are right to do so, and anyone who doesn’t is wrong, and should be judged by them. I think if we could get that one sorted many problems in the world would be dealt with

  • Reply Pricilla May 23, 2011 at 5:32 pm

     Oh dear. Does this mean I am a problem for butting Abby or a solution for getting rid of the problem that is Abby?

    Now I have a headache.

    The publicist liked your story but I am a sarcastic goat

  • Reply laughing mom May 23, 2011 at 5:39 pm

     Having had both of my children be bullied in school – I know that it tends to be the parents that let the kids grow to behave in such vile manners. You just want to tell the principal to let you have 5 minutes with the bully alone…

    In Virginia they did amend the State constitution to ban gay marriage even though it was already against the law – talk about homophobia!

  • Reply Vincent Jeffers May 23, 2011 at 6:54 pm

    Amen, sister.

  • Reply Jayne May 23, 2011 at 9:44 pm

    You’re back.  Way to rock it!   People who are nicer to themselves are generally nicer to others.   

  • Reply meleahrebeccah May 23, 2011 at 10:06 pm

    Amen to every single word in this post! Way to work it, Jennifer! 

  • Reply Ferd May 23, 2011 at 10:39 pm

    Check. Check. Check.
    Whew! Part of the solution! 🙂
    Passed all of them except the mother and politician ones.

  • Reply Debbie Happy Maker May 23, 2011 at 10:59 pm

    Great post Jennifer.  I do agree when it comes to bullies.  And I bet if you were a fly on the wall in there home that 1 or both of there parents are bullying the child.  when it comes to kids, it all starts with the parenting.  Parents are the solution to raising good adults.  thanks again for the post and the smile it put on my face.  Love it when that happens.  You are part of my solution Jennifer. LOL  Debbie

  • Reply Anonymous May 24, 2011 at 2:36 am

    Word!!! WordwordwordwordWORD! I feel that everyone should learn to take some fricken ownership to their position in situations. You are either part of the problem or a part of the solution… put the fingers away and stfu!

    Almost every single one of these examples could have me ranting for days!

    You go Jen 🙂

  • Reply Sandra May 24, 2011 at 3:58 am

    Great post.What about this: if you’re a divorced dad who did pay child support on time, but then stopped because you wanted to go to Cuba with your skanky wife, but once you got back from Cuba, you started paying child support again, but not the money you owed retroactively….wait…that’s a post! Never mind!
    Great post!

  • Reply Don E. Chute May 24, 2011 at 9:03 am


    Couldn’t have said it better myself.  It’s time in our American History that we all stop being a problem in one form or another and be part of the solution.

    It’s all part of my ‘Shit-or-get-Off-the-Pot’ philosophy.  You just keep go gittin’ em’!

    Aloha From Sunny South Florida!

  • Reply Margaret (nannygoats) May 26, 2011 at 12:19 am

    Nice! Now if we could just ram this down people throats, we’d all be one big happy family!

  • Reply Shawn May 27, 2011 at 10:29 pm

    In addition to your list, and not in response to any of your points I’ll add, If you try to consider the other person’s perspective you are part of the solution.

  • Reply JunkDrawer May 28, 2011 at 8:56 am

    I love this, Jen. I made me smile . And I’ll be behind Margaret, ramming it down people’s throats. Hee.

  • Reply stephanie.cleveland May 31, 2011 at 2:03 pm

    I bestoweth an award unto thee on my blog..

  • Reply 2Commentaristas June 1, 2011 at 12:58 pm

    Thanks for calling out all those anonymous haters who leave their “pithy” comments on various news blogs! Your post had me laughing and nodding in agreement the whole way through.

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