Going with the Flow of Dairy Queen

June 11, 2009

I’ve decided to let go and stop trying to control things that I have no way to control. Big idea, I know. I’ve been kicking myself for the last few weeks for reasons that I’m not sure even I understand but it has not been a good or healthy thing. So I have decided that I am going to just enjoy the moment, at least for now.

I was laid off a couple of months ago and this has worried me lately. In worrying about all of it I came to a few realizations which you can read about here if you are so inclined. I’ve decided that I am going to enjoy things the way they are and stop worrying about the things I can’t change.

This is a big deal for me since I have spent my life three steps ahead of the game. I had to with a gay dad and a handicapped mom. With my dad and his stuff I was always trying to head off any talk of “queer” or “fag” talk with other kids. This hasn’t been a problem in a long time but old habits die hard. With my mom I was always trying to anticipate what kind of mood she was in so I didn’t further disrupt what was already crazy. I’d think of answers to her questions and come up with all possible responses she might have. I would choose the least likely to cause trouble as far as my answer went. It’s been tiring trying to have that much control and I don’t want to do it anymore. Maybe I’m having a midlife crisis without the convertible, I don’t know for sure.

The kids are out of school and I’m out of a job so after fighting the reality for so long I have decided to just go with the flow and see where it takes me.

Today I took my daughter and her friend to the public library. Both girls were excited to go so it seemed like it would be a fun excursion. Which it was. I hadn’t been to a library since my college days so I no longer had a library card. Ex#2 takes the daughter to the library but he uses his card so she doesn’t have a card either. We both signed up for a card and then all three of us went in search of great reads.

My daughter’s friend had a summer reading list from school so she went in search of those while my daughter and I looked for a few early reading books. We found several and then went over to the lounge area to wait for her friend. I had to remind my daughter many times about using her indoor voice but really no one seemed too mind that she was excited about finding some great books, and even less upset that she was reading them herself, out loud of course.

While in the lounge area I noticed the book Make Way For Ducklings by Robert McCloskey. I loved this book as a kid and expressed as much, rather loudly, when I started to read it to my daughter. The librarian just smiled and mouthed the words “I love it too” to me. I got the message and started to read it to my daughter. My daughter balked at the book at first since it was obviously old since I had enjoyed it as a child but after a few pages she fell in love with it too. Her friend, having found all of her reading list books, soon joined us and listened intently. A few other kids gathered round to hear the tale of the eight little duckling and their parents find a home in Boston. If you haven’t read this wonderful book in a while, or have never read it make sure to stop by your local library and have a read, you won’t regret it.

After the library we stopped at Dairy Queen for lunch. I promised the kids ice cream if they ate real food. I now realize that DQ does not serve real food but it has been so long since I had been to a Dairy Queen that I had forgotten. We ordered our ice cream and went outside to eat.

We’ve had some really unseasonable cold her for the past week. It’s been at least 20 degrees colder than it should be. We’ve had 50 degree weather and I hate to admit it but I had the heat on, for only ten minutes, in June. I’m horribly ashamed but it was too damn cold. Anyway, it was finally nice and warm today so we sat outside to eat our Blizzards.

On the Blizzard cup they have little trivia blurbs about DQ. On the Blizzard cup it mentions how the Blizzard is so thick that it can be held upside down safely and often the servers will present the Blizzard upside down to prove this point. They don’t bother to remind the reader that the inside of the store is air conditioned and when first served the cup is cold.

When you take the time to eat a few bites, give a few bites to your daughter to see if she likes it and take time to read the blurb then the cup, especially if you are sitting outside in the sun, becomes warm and the ice cream melts along the edges of the inside of the cup. They don’t mention this but they should. Upon reading about serving the Blizzard upside down, and because I have decided to take more chances and go with the flow, I turned the Blizzard upside down. It plopped out onto the table and then dripped through the patio furniture (the kind of table made of metal with holes punched through it) onto my pants and shoes.

I was embarrassed at first but then as I got up to grab more napkins I noticed that there were at least three other tables with the very thing happening at that very moment.

Take this as a warning, ignore the challenge on the Blizzard cup or turn it upside down as soon as it is served to you if you can not resist the temptation.

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  • Reply Da Old Man June 11, 2009 at 8:13 pm

    I would have done the same thing with the Blizzard cup.

  • Reply Lin June 11, 2009 at 8:18 pm

    I think it is an evil plot by DQ to make you buy another Blizzard. Scammers!

    I'm glad that you are able to let some things go and enjoy for a bit. That's a hard thing to do in the best of situations, so I'm impressed. Let's hope things start to get better one of these days and jobs start appearing again. On a positive note: all the people that I knew that lost their jobs have found them in the last month or so–let's hope that is a positive sign.

  • Reply Sherri June 11, 2009 at 8:57 pm

    Hey Jen! Sounds like you had a really fun day with your daughter. It's nice to know there's still fun things to do that don't cost an arm and a leg.

    You sound a lot like me, I'm always planning ahead and its comforting to know what's coming up. When something happens and you have no control, it is very difficult. Sounds like you've got a good outlook. Sometimes time is more important than money. Enjoy the time you have now. When a job comes along you'll have more money but less time.

  • Reply Lola June 11, 2009 at 10:03 pm

    I think it depends on the DQ location about the real food. There are some DQ's that are as big as a MCD's and have a full sandwich menu.

    That's too funny that everyone was trying the upside blizzard trick.

    Take advantage of the time you have with your daughter. It's not often that you'll find you're able to spend as much time with her as you are able to now.

    Sounds like you've got a volunteer gig at the library if you want it. Lol!

  • Reply Pricilla June 11, 2009 at 10:16 pm

    I would have the best time at the library with my nieces and nephews.

    I don't think I have ever had a blizzard…hmmm. I don't know if there are dairy queens here. I will have to look in the missoula phone book. Not that I get to Missoula that often…*sigh*

    It is good you had so much fun especially with your remembered book.

  • Reply BONNIE K June 12, 2009 at 8:40 pm

    I have been craving a blizzard for a month now, so I wish I hadn't read this, cause now it's on my mind again! A chocolate blizzard with heath pieces – the only way to go! I hope something turns up for you on the job front, but it must be nice to spend days like this – the library and DQ – I would love that.

  • Reply nipsy June 14, 2009 at 10:31 am

    Been there done that..Damn you DQ!!

    Glad to see you are enjoying life more now..not only do you deserve it, but you need it..

  • Reply The Mother June 14, 2009 at 11:12 am

    Dairy Queen brings back memories. We don't have any close ones, here in Houston.

  • Reply Frogs in my formula June 15, 2009 at 7:14 pm

    The DQ Blizzard is the one food on Earth I cannot say no to. I would eat them all day every day if I could. So if I had been sitting next to you when you dumped your Blizzard I would have eaten it off the table.

    My husband got laid off and is going with the flow too. I hope your flow goes well. (Not Aunt!)

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